"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." -Emerson

Friday, August 8, 2008

Secret life of blogging...

This whole bloggin' thing makes me giggle sometimes...it adds the stalkerazzi nature we have in this country. You can check out someones "profile" on myspace or facebook and get all there personal likes/dislikes, what mood they are in, and what their friends write on their wall. You can get on this thing called "Twitter" so people can have up to the minute updates as to what you are doing in any given moment. And then, you have the blogs, where people can pour out their hearts and souls in a virtual diary.

But, there are unwritten rules...you never verbally acknowledge stalking someone via myspace, facebook, twitter, or a blog. But, let's face it...that is what these rabbit holes are...click here to access this person and then click on this person to see what they wrote back, and then click there and then follow a comment to see the whole conversation.

I guess it comes from our need to feel connected to people. There is a safety hiding behind a computer screen. You don't have to face rejection, you don't have to make as much of an effort with a person via a phonecall or a visit if you can just drop a line on their comment space. You can save yourself all the fears that accompany face to face social interaction. Most of the time, you miss out on the richness that is verbalization. You can misinterpret a MISTAKEN CAPITALIZED WORD or an accidentally placed ! , . You cannot hear the tone of ones voice so something that is normally verbalized without any thought as to its underlying meaning can become a question of whether or not the person who wrote the words is mad at you.

But all the facebook stalking, blog checking, blog writing, and other forms of virtual realities robs us of opportunities to actually be in the presence of other human beings and hear their thoughts, their ideas, their voice. You'd think we'd figure that out...but time is of the essence these days, and there just is not enough time to actually make phone calls, have coffee with friends or just a good ol' fashion sittin' on the stoop, talkin' to the neighbors. (One of my goals in life is to have a stoop...) So, until then, facebook relationships and blog reading will have to be the way to keep us connected.

Got to check my email....there are some relationships I have to tend to. ;)

Here's to interaction...

Until next time-

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